We live in fast-paced and changing times. It is
easy to get lost in fear of the unknown or feelings of being overwhelmed because things move so fast and something is always shifting. The path into anxious thoughts is well-worn by most of us, so much so that we’re down that road before we realize we have a choice.
But we do. We can train our minds towards optimism the same way we train ourselves to ride a bike or learn a new language or develop a new eating regime – with intention and practice. I find that, the more I can maintain a positive and optimistic demeanor, the easier it is for me to find my way through every day feeling good about who I am and what I do regardless of the circumstances or conditions around in my life.
I believe we are – each of us – in any given moment either
part of the problem or part of the solution. Again – another choice. Whenever I find myself complaining or worrying or irritated by what someone else is doing or not
doing, I remind myself that these feelings only make the problems bigger.To be part of the solution, appreciation and kindness and generosity and paying it forward are the feelings and actions I aspire to apply.
It doesn’t take a big gesture to be kind or appreciative.
It just takes a willingness to stop defending our fears and limitations and
reach for a sense of our Greater Self and make choices from ‘there’. It
doesn’t cost a lot of money to focus optimistically. It just takes a
willingness to relax and make peace with what is and find what is good about
Sometimes, people say, “Well, that’s easy for you to say,
Ahnalira. You have a good Life.” And I say, “I have a good Life
because I make being intentional about how I think and focus more important
than anything else”. Some of the ways I help myself exercise the power of
my ability to choose focus:
- I write affirmations
- I listen to affirming music that inspires me
- I listen to affirming tapes that inspire me
- I exercise
- I meditate
- I accept I am responsible for my feelings and my
experience and am, therefore, empowered to create the Life that makes me happy.
- I make lists of who I appreciate and why
When I am successful in my practice to always choose optimism, my life is an expression of all these values, and I do my best to set a tone that encourages empowerment and success. I do that by deciding to be part of the solution.
Every morning when I wake up, I claim my intention to behave in a way that is part of
the solution. Every night I before I go to bed, I ask myself “How have I
been part of the solution today?”
Our lives are not determined by what happened to us, but how we react to what happens, not by what life brings us but by the attitude we bring to life. A hopeful attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.
I invite you to join me in some or all of these practices. We can choose to be the solution, together.
Thank you. I love you.